He has always been the ultimate Dom. Totally hardcore, dominant and alpha, yet sweet, caring and protective. ~ Leagh
He is the one and only Dom to make it his business to see that a woman is pleasured properly. No one can come close. ~Artemis
Jack introduces Morgan to a world in a way that is inviting and mysterious, but takes the audience with him. He dominates but sweeps everyone off their feet as he does it. ~ DianeBecause re-reading that book still gives me chills. ~Joi
I would love to say what a tremendous honor it was to have been last year's Ultimate Dom, especially considering the amazing group of contenders up for consideration with me. I would love to say that because it's what my wife advised me to say, but since I'm not a fucking beauty queen contestant, I don't have it in me to say any of that shit.
What I will say is that every Dom is different, as is every sub. But in any successful D/s relationship, one objective is always at the forefront: The happiness and fulfillment of the sub. As long as the Dominant provides the submissive with what she needs (notice that I didn’t say what she wants), in an environment of trust and protection, then that's all that matters. In my mind, that's what makes a good Dom. As for what makes an ultimate Dom, I haven't a fucking clue. I’ve always lived by my philosophy and if it works…great.
I have heard the term 'weak Dom' bandied about, used to describe a Dom who is unable (or unwilling) to provide his sub with what she needs in order to gain fulfillment. A person who is not able to take care of his sub or meet her needs emotionally, physically, sexually is not a Dom in my book...weak or otherwise. That person is just a control freak. Once you are given the title of Dom or Master, it’s about something more. You have a greater responsibility, and it’s one I take seriously. If the subs of all the nominated Doms are happy and fulfilled, then they’re all winners.
No Dom is perfect, and I sure as shit don't pretend to be. I've made a lot of mistakes, and I once betrayed the woman from whom I had demanded absolute trust. The fact that my sub was strong enough to forgive me and confident enough to put her trust in me again is a testament to her character, not mine. But I love her every day for it. We keep communicating and working through issues. She continues to place her trust in me, and I do everything possible to honor the gift of her submission and fulfill her. That simple.
I've rambled on long enough. In closing, I'll just say this: Being a Dom is not about belittling, it is about empowering those under our care. It’s about making them feel safe enough to break out from their mental shackles and societal dictates to be the people they have only ever dreamed of being. Any Dom who has been gifted with that kind of trust is a winner in my book, as I can think of no greater prize than that.
Starting tomorrow, the enticing begins...